Archive for the ‘Biblical Counseling’ category

CrossTalk: Where Life and Scriptures Meet by Michael R. Emlet

February 24th, 2010

Mike Emlet brings a refreshing look at the application of biblical theology to the issues of life. This very practical look at how we can go from the tried and true “ditch” passages to a deeper more thoroughgoing approach using “canyon” passages is a must for anyone who disciples, counsels, talks to other people! You will find yourself better equipped to bring the all sufficient Word of God to bear on everything from the mundane problems of life to the overwhelming trials and adversity that come our way.

What makes this book so useful is the case study approach. Using “Tom” and “Natalie”, two individuals with vastly different problems, Mike unpacks for us two passages (one from each Testament) and how they bring wisdom, correction, encouragement and hope. Each chapter ends with questions to help the reader bring the principles taught to their own situations.

A high view of Scripture permeates the entire book. But as the author makes clear, a high view of Scripture must be more than a confession. If we are to be effective with the Scriptures we must be drinking deeply ourselves. Otherwise we will be satisfied with the “ditch” passages and those to whom we minister will not see the glorious “canyons” of help they could receive.

Every parent, pastor, elder, deacon, counselor, teacher, youth leader… anyone who is serious about discipleship should read this book!

Getting A Grip, by Lou Priolo

December 8th, 2009

A while back we attended a Family Enrichment Conference on the topic of anger. The speaker noted that 9 out of 10 persons have an anger problem. Some of these people are obvious – they blow up like a volcano. Others are not so obvious – they keep it inside and let it fester into bitterness. We know that not all anger is wrong for Paul told the Ephesians to “be angry” and then finished with “and sin not.” (Eph. 4:29) But it is not always easy for us to evaluate when it is right and when it is wrong. Even more difficult is the whole issue of self-control which is needed in order to obey the imperative to sin not. There is a great need for this among our teens. This period of their life is full of confusion as they enter adulthood. Paul instructs Titus that both young men and young women need to be trained in self-control (Titus 2:5, 6).
Getting A Grip: The Heart of Anger Handbook for Teens follows Priolo’s other very helpful book, The Heart of Anger geared for parents of younger children. In Getting a Grip he helps teens to understand what anger is and what God thinks of it. He teaches them how to communicate properly, how to be self-controlled when provoked, how to manage their tendency to manipulate and how to undo disrespect.
One unusual chapter is on learning how to talk with your parents about their sin. It is biblical as we, those who are believers, are also brothers and sisters in Christ and are commanded to restore one who is caught in sin (Gal. 6:1). He reminds them to deal with the log in their own eye first, to be respectful and that no matter how their parents respond they are to continue to submit to their authority. They are encouraged to talk with their parents about how this should be handled before the need arises. I look forward to this interaction with my teens.
The last chapter of the book talks about what it means to be a teen. We should take the approach with our teenagers that they are adults in an apprenticeship toward independence. The author reinforces this concept and encourages them to pursue faithfulness. His final admonition to teens is for them to “continue to mature in your walk with Christ – no longer as a child , but in dependence upon the Holy Spirit, learning how to speak the truth in love, growing up in every way into Him, who is the head, into Christ.” [p. 199]
This book is a great resource for teens for teaching them how to evaluate their heart, how to change and become self-controlled, to mature and become more like Christ. As with his first book it is always preferable if mom and dad read it first or along with their teen.

Blame it on the Brain by Ed Welch

November 30th, 2009

            Edward T. Welch provides a valuable resource for any pastor who has faced the questions of chemical imbalance, families struggling with Alzheimer’s, and members who have children diagnosed with ADHD.  Only a few hours before sitting down to write this review I found myself engaged in a conversation with a family who is struggling but persevering with a very troubled teenager “diagnosed” with ADHD.  A few hours earlier I found myself in another conversation regarding how to counsel a family struggling with a husband and father with Alzheimer’s.  The body of Christ should stand ready with answers, help, and hope for those facing such difficult and painful trials. 

            Welch provides organization to the whole issue of the brain.  First, he sets out on the most important task of establishing Scripture as the interpretive grid.  This must be done since much of the discussion regarding the brain enters into the realm of philosophy, world and life view, and sometimes mere conjecture.  Without God’s framework of values how we view the brain would be distorted and at the mercy of relativism.  This may be why so much of what has been proposed by many researchers seems to reflect what looks more like their agenda and not what their data supports.  By looking at the heart issues first and viewing them from God’s perspective we can offer genuine help and hope when “the brain did it, maybe did it, or didn’t do it.” 

            Essential for approaching the topic of the brain through a biblical world view is the issue of sin.  Can your brain make you sin?  Welch argues from Scripture that the answer must be no.  This may be perceived as “harsh and unsympathetic.”  However, as Welsh notes it respects the image bearer status.  This is a multifaceted blessing.  It allows us to pursue God in faith, helps to maintain a sanctification view of trials, and reveals that the promises of God’s grace are genuine. 

            Welch notes that every one has different strengths and weaknesses as it relates to the brain.  This is of great significance in the area of counseling.  Weakness in certain areas of brain function can influence behavior.  As noted in the book, this is never an excuse for sin.  However, our approach to people will be marked with greater grace, forgiveness, and mercy as we try to understand and see things as they see them.  This will help you guide them to take responsibility and act godly.

            In addressing the three possibilities (the brain did it, maybe the brain did it, and the brain didn’t do it) the book provides a paradigm for evaluating and helping people.  First you need to “get information.”  Second you must “distinguish between spiritual and physical symptoms.”  Finally, you “address heart issues” and “help maximize strengths or minimize weaknesses caused by a physical symptom.”  This is very helpful since it honors people by seeking to know them and then lovingly help them both in the spiritual and the physical realms by seeing their situation through the lens of Scripture.

            This book provides excellent information as we counsel people.  How then do we affectively help our people who are inundated through television, Christian radio, other pastors, and through other media to think differently?  Many in our churches look with great suspicion on the concept of biblical counseling but quickly and without a critical eye believe in the reductionist approaches to their problems.  Where do we begin the important work of helping our people look consistently through the lens of Scripture as it relates to psychological problems?   Blame it on the Brain will bring biblical wisdom to the table as you think through these important issues.

Sacred Marriage: What if God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy?

November 29th, 2009

          Gary Thomas challenges the common assumption that marriage is foundationally about happiness.  His assumption is that marriage has to do with God’s designs to make couples holy.    Thomas states that the first purpose for marriage is to please God. 

            This purpose for marriage has profound implications.  It brings love, honor, prayer, and sanctification to new depths.  Love which remains even in the face of trial, difficulty, and the imperfections of each spouse.  Prayer is deepened because of the need for continual reconciliation with our spouse.   Since the marriage relationship has a keen way of revealing our sin, sanctification is pushed forward. 

            Thomas reminds us of the discipline of perseverance.  This implies principle based living instead of living according to feelings of happiness.  Thomas calls us to face the difficulties in our marriage with an eternal perspective as an aid for perseverance (Rom. 2:7-8). 

            An outworking of the goal to become holy is the need for forgiveness.  He states that we probably do not get married “because it gives us an opportunity to learn how to forgive.”  These opportunities will certainly arrive.  They are more opportunities to become more holy.  Thomas calls the entire process of living graciously with another sinner “falling forward.”  His counsel to couples is to fall forward, not away.  His counsel is to fall forward even in the face of the most bitter of circumstances.  Since holiness is the goal of marriage the following areas will also be important for the couples to develop:  Servanthood, sexuality seen as a gift from God, spiritual development, and clarifying our calling.

         Definately a good addition to any biblical counselor’s library of resources!

                                                         

Preaching the Whole Bible As Christian Scripture: The Application of Biblical Theology to Expository Preaching

November 29th, 2009

          This book falls into the must have category for every pastor.  It joins a long line of books and teachers that have helped transform my thinking to a biblical theology.  Many of the authors who have influenced me were cited in this book.  In a sense the author, Graeme Goldsworthy, seemed more like an old friend. 

            In seminary I was rightly taught the importance of developing the theology of the passage with the author’s original intent in mind.   However, the author’s original intent takes place in the greater canonical context.   Over the last several years I have begun to see this and wrestle with the implications to teaching and preaching.  Goldsworthy helps immensely by taking this from a concept to a usable form.  Sidney Greidanus in The Modern Preacher and the Ancient Text convinced me. Graeme Goldsworthy through this helpful book shows how it works. 

            Goldsworthy has taken all of this even a step further.   Genesis 1 through Revelation 22 must not just be seen in the greater context of the whole of Scripture as literature.  It must ultimately be seen through the object of this revelation, Jesus Christ, his perfect life, his propitiatory work, and resurrection.  It truly is Christian Scripture. 

            Seeing Scripture this way has helped me to at least be aware of and hopefully avoid the “temptation … to proceed directly from, say the godly Israelite to the contemporary believer” resulting in “distortions.”  I agree with Goldsworthy when he states that “there is no direct application apart from the mediation of Christ.”   To answer his question: “Can I maintain my integrity as a Christian preacher if I preach a part of the Bible as if Jesus had not come?”  Simply, “no.” 

A few times each year we offer a Sunday evening entitled, “Ask the Pastor.”  We did this shortly after I completed reading Goldsworthy.  People from the congregation submit written questions ahead of time.  I was thrilled to read this question:  “We are told to study the whole Word of God, but some parts of the OT are very difficult to read – all that killing!   Also the doom and gloom of the prophets is depressing.  It is so much more encouraging to read the NT.  How should a Christian read and study God’s Word?”  How happy I was to help them see that the New Testament has no meaning apart from the Old Testament.  Further, with joy I was able to help them walk through the genealogies, murderous stories, and the prophets “depressing” proclamations now seeing them in light of the cross. 

            One area of slight disagreement is found in relating preaching to the prophet (pps. 38ff.).  Certainly the modern preacher should speak with confidence as he proclaims the Word of God.  Yet we are speaking interpretively about “thus says the Lord” and not directly “thus says the Lord.”    This seems to me to be a fundamental difference.  Preaching today should look more like the wisemen of the Old Testament such as Joseph.   My concern is admittedly rooted in the loosely defined role of “modern day prophet” that has been given to many preachers/pastors today. 

            This is of minor significance in relationship to the overall agreement I have with the book.  Goldsworthy makes the very strong point that the prophet connects us to the Creator whose word is of prime importance and is pointing us toward salvation and consummation.   This is more than instructive even if our role and function is different than the prophet.   It guides us in our approach to the prophet and his prophecy as an ultimately Christian “thus says the Lord.” 

One illustration of how this book has helped is greater grace in my preaching.  I had sensed prior to reading Goldsworthy that my preaching had become burdensome.  While I was pointing out the truth it was deficient in grace.  There certainly is a place for hard confrontational words.  Yet to leave it at hard confrontational words is to miss the hope of the Gospel.  Since reading Goldsworthy I have sensed greater joy in preaching.  Unsurprisingly I also detect a much more receptive congregation to the whole message.  In this sense I believe that my public ministry has become more biblical.